Relationships are fun when you have the right partner. After the honeymoon phase ends, you are faced with the reality and you start getting to know if you are with the right person or it was mere infatuation.
The signs might not be so obvious, if you are not careful enough, you might stick with the wrong person for a long time before you realise your mistake. Below are some signs to show if the person you are dating is right for you:
The key to any successful relationship is a compromise, says Kate Moyle, relationship psychotherapist and host of The cexual Wellness Sessions podcast. The way you are able to compromise and negotiate with a partner should be a key indicator of how well suited you are. If you find it easy to meet in the middle when you are in disagreement about something, you know your partner is a keeper.
How they make you feel
James Preece, a dating coach advised that the right person for you will empower you to be your most confident self. Avoid partners who have you constantly questioning your thoughts and appearance, that’s a clear red flag something isn’t right. A good partner wants you to be happy and not to doubt yourself.
A good partner will listen attentively to everything you have to say, regardless of how boring it might seem to you. It might mean you are listening to them ranting about the flaws in your work colleagues for the majority of an evening, but it’s important for them to feel heard and listened to. The ability to hear each other, and to give the other space to feel heard, even if the content of the discussion isn’t of interest to us as an individual, shows that person that they are worthy of our time and attention.
You don’t need to have the exact same interests as a potential long-term partner. In fact, sometimes it helps to have completely different ones, it gives you something to talk about. Preece says that if you want a long-term relationship with someone, you must make sure you are both going in the same direction in terms of your life goals and your core values.
When you are with the right person, there is no judgment. You should feel free to be yourself and show all sides of your personality. If something is on your mind, you prefer to get it out in the open quickly rather than bottling it up. The best thing is that when this happens with someone who is good for you, they will be able to listen and help when you have a problem.