You have your eye on a guy and want to let him know you like him, but don’t want to play easy? Here are 14 ways to show your hand, and retain your tease.
So, you found a guy who piques your interest. He’s hot, s*xy, and totally your type. You sense he’s interested in you, too, but once you make a move, he shuts down. What went wrong?
Well, for one, boys love the challenge. Once things get too easy, they tend to lose interest. According to Matthew, a proud player of the game, “I don’t like it when girls are too easy. I enjoy the chase, as it makes it so much more worthwhile.”
The thing is, it is not just the players who love the chase, but also guys who are actively seeking a woman to be in a serious relationship with. According to Brian, “I initially didn’t think anything was going to happen between me and my current girlfriend—that is, until she turned on the charm, played the game, and teased me into submission. I couldn’t resist her.”
Charm and tease: How to show a guy you like him while being a tease
The goal is to make him go gaga for you. You want to tease him to the point where he can’t stop thinking about you. There are many ways to do this; all it takes is a little self-control on your part, some practice, and voila—you’ll definitely snag the man you’ve had your eye on. Although these tips don’t apply to all guys, they certainly apply to most of them. Here are 14 ways to show a guy you like him and still be a tease.
#1 Use your words. Sitting pretty and looking like a princess isn’t enough. You need to amp up the flirting if you want to get it through his thick skull that you’re interested. Don’t stray too far from the familiar and stick to the basics, such as, “Wow, your new haircut looks great!” or “Looks like that Crossfit gym membership is paying off, you s*xy beast.”
#2 Utilize eye contact. Gazing at him seductively will be sure to let him know that you like him, while still maintaining tease status. There’s just something about looking at a man straight in the eye, then averting your gaze that’ll have him worked up into a frenzy. Do this a couple of times…until he gets the hint.
#3 Lightly touch him. The next time you’re having a conversation with him, inject some physical contact into the mix. Everything from lightly stroking his hand to gently hitting his arm while you’re laughing at his jokes will signal your interest. If you’re not afraid of being more forward, playing footsie with him is another option.
#4 Show off your assets. Be sure to make an effort for him the next time you’re out. Take the initiative to put on something s*xy and look your best. If you’ve got great legs, don a dress that shows them off. If you’ve got great B00bs, wear a V-neck top. No matter what you wear, just be sure not to look like a slut. When he compliments you, say something like, “I’m glad you like what you see.”
#5 Laugh at his jokes. Men love feeling special, so the next time he cracks a joke, be sure to laugh. Once he knows that you appreciate his humor, you’ll earn bonus points in his book.
#6 Make him feel special. Hang on to his every word and make him feel like he’s the only one in the room. Be sure to compliment him and boost his ego. He will appreciate the effort you’re making on his behalf. Once you successfully make a man feel special, you’re in the clear.
#7 Act interested. Men love it when you show interest in them. From asking him about his accomplishments, to letting him know that you’re keen on picking up his hobbies, he will be smitten by the time you’re done asking him everything you need to know about his likes and dislikes. Remember not to interrogate him but, rather, pose the questions in a fun and interesting manner.
#8 Use technology. The beautiful thing about technology is that you can keep him aware of your presence, even when you’re apart. If used right, everything from texting to social media will work to your benefit. For example, poking him and liking his posts on social media is a simple way to get his attention. As for texting, just shoot him something simple like, “Had a great time last night and can’t wait to do it again.”
#9 Don’t flirt with others. No one likes competition. Some people may say that, by making a man jealous, he’ll show more interest in you, but that’s certainly not the case—especially if he has other options to choose from. Play it safe, and don’t flirt with anyone else the next time you’re with him. However, be sure not to overdo it by coming off as desperate.
#10 Tease him. Inject some humor into your next conversation by teasing him. However, remember that boys are sensitive creatures and there’s no turning back once you bruise his ego. Indulge in playful teasing, but don’t be cruel.
#11 Let him know you’re available.
Let him know you’re interested in spending time with him without being too forward. If he’s interested, he’ll pick up on the hints you drop. For example, you can say, “I love the lineup at the Cluny Park music festival happening this weekend, but no one I know is keen on heading there with me.” If he likes you, he’ll ask you out.
#12 Be confident.
Another way to show a guy that you like him and still be a tease is by exuding confidence. Men love confident women, as it amps up your s*x appeal. It’ll make him want you more. Would you rather date a confident man or a mousy one? The same goes for women.
#13 Show interest in what he likes. Generally, people enjoy spending time with others who enjoy doing the same things as them. That’s why yogis group together, hikers spend time together, and drinkers head out binge drinking together. When getting to know him, suggest that you would like to try some of the things he enjoys doing. For example, if he loves rock climbing, hint that you have always wanted to give it a go. Ask him questions about the sport and, before you know it, he’ll invite you out to show you the ropes.
#14 Get physical. . Once you’ve scored a date with him, get physical—but don’t go all the way. You want him to know that you’re interested, while keeping some form of mystery and yearning in play. Some guys may call this blue-balling, but hey, you want him coming back for more.
Contrary to what this list may suggest, boys are not complex creatures. There’s no reading between the lines when it comes to them. If you like him, you’re simply going to have to prove it to him.