You Are Destroying Your Husband And Killing Your Marriage With This

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1. Living outside of what you can afford
A wise old woman from my church congregation once advised: “The best
thing you can do as a wife is to live within your husband’s means.”
Wives, show sincere appreciation and respect to your husband by
carefully following a budget and making the most of what you have. Be
wise about your finances.
Constantly complaining about not having enough to fulfill your lavish
desires or racking up astronomical amounts of debt on your credit card is
a poor way of saying “thank you” to a faithful spouse who works hard
every day to provide for the family.
Yes, you may not have enough to buy that Kate Spade bag you’ve had
your eyes on for months, but your husband will love and appreciate the
fact that you honor him and are grateful for what he provides.
2. Constant negativity
You hate your hair, the messes around the house, the neighbor across the
street, your dumb co-worker, the old dishwasher, and everything in
between. As soon as your husband walks through the door, you launch
into action and dump every negative and angry thought that’s crossed
your mind throughout the day.
Can you imagine having to carry that burden? Negativity is draining.
Men like to fix things, and constantly being hounded with complaints
makes it difficult for him to help solve your pains.
If there is one thing I’ve learned from marriage is that a good man wants
you to be happy, and if he can’t help you do that, it makes him unhappy.
It’s okay to have a bad day once in a while, that’s totally understandable,
but don’t make it a way of life.
3. Putting everything else first
When your children, mom, best friends, talents, or career in front of your
husband, you send a clear message to him that he is unimportant.
Imagine having that message sent to you every day for many years. What
would that do to your self esteem?
Put your husband first.
Although it sometimes seems counter-intuitive and counterproductive, I
think you’d be amazed to find that it’s often the key to the greatest
happiness in marriage. So many couples get divorced these days, because
they neglect to care and love one another and put each other first.
If you choose to put each other first, you will find a lot of joy.
4. Withholding physical affection
Men crave and need physical affection with their wives. When you
constantly decline intimacy, it wears on them.
s*x should not be used as a tool to control your spouse; it should be
viewed as a sacred tool to draw you closer to one another and to God.
It is a great blessing to be wanted and needed by a loving, romantic
husband who wants to share something so beautiful and important with
you — and you only. Even though you might not always be in the mood,
it’s worth it to give in (when you can) and spend that time bonding.
5. Not speaking his language
Women love to drop hints. (I think it’s part of our DNA.) But men just
don’t get them. (I think that is a part of their DNA.)
Don’t waste your time giving subtle hints that he won’t understand:
Speak plainly to him. Be honest about your feelings, and don’t bottle
things up until you burst.
If he asks you what’s wrong, don’t respond with “nothing” and then
expect him to read your mind and emotions. Be open about how you
really feel.
Written By SprincoolJ

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